I saw this comment (also screenshotted below) on twitter that made me lose my mind because it’s funny, but mostly it’s so true. Two years ago when I was preparing to go to Korea, I saw a lot of these kinds of videos. I still see these types of videos being made on Youtube.

There may be some small cultural differences when it comes to how dating works in one culture versus another. But for the most part, the basics of dating is the same everywhere. You either hit it off with someone or you don’t. I find it peculiar that things like “Dating in Korea/How to Date a Korean Person” (specifically, a guy) is seen as some big mystery. Then you read/watch about them and find that it really isn’t a big mystery. Surprise, they’re just like any other human being. (Then again, I don’t care to date in general, so what do I know? ¯\_(ツ)_/ ¯)

I’ve also never really got why some people have to be specific about the race of their partner (i.e., “My Korean Boyfriend”) for no particular reason. I don’t think it’s a big deal to make content that discusses specifc experiences that have occured because you and your partner are from different backgrounds and how it might have affected you. I think it’s unnecessary to make something titled “Me and My Korean Boyfriend Go Bowling.” What does being Korean have to do with bowling? It feels like “showing off.” It feels like fetishizing. It’s no better than if a Korean person bragged about having a foreign partner like it’s some type of cool achievement.

I don’t know. It just feels gross. Especially since the people who go to Korea or any Asian country, and make these videos, wouldn’t do it about their home country.

Also, once you’ve seen one video called “Clubbing in Korea: Storytime” you’ve basically seen them all.



Tutoring a language: All you need to know

Very helpful advice!

Lindie Botes

I started tutoring when my mom, an English teacher, moved to Japan and passed her students on to me. I mostly learnt from watching her give lessons. It helps if you’re a language learner yourself – you’ll figure out what the best way to learn a language is, and then use that way to teach.

Of course. I’ve found that in South Africa, Korean schools and tutors are extremely sparse and difficult to find. For that reason, many people started approaching me personally and asking for lessons. When I realized the demand was there, I started selling myself as a tutor, but I always provided a disclaimer that I’m not a native speaker. In this case, always tutor BELOW the level you speak. Don’t attempt to tutor someone who’s as advanced as you are – you don’t…

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Originally I started this blog up on tumblr, and I’m still in the process of transferring some small things from there to here (since I plan to delete the tumblr version in the future). While looking through some old posts from my time in Korea, I found some old entries I written that I never actually published because I only wanted a select few to read them. I think my reasoning for that was I was just too shy, and I guess I thought people might judge me somehow for them, even though the posts aren’t even that serious. Oh well, below you’ll find the entries exactly as I had written them 3 years ago!

Also, happy new year, everyone!

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Last Few Days in Thailand

It’s been a few months now since my trip to Thailand and, of course, I miss it. I also miss my friend, her family, and her baby! (Every time she posts on Facebook, I can’t help but heart every single photo. The baby’s walking and her hair has gotten so long!) I honestly wish I was celebrating the new year in Thailand right now.

There were a lot of entries I wanted to write from Thailand that I never got to do while I was there. When I was in Taiwan, I was very diligent about journaling every day. For some reason in Thailand, I was always just too tired to write anything down at the end of the day. However, I did write summaries of what happened each day (so I wouldn’t forget in the hopes I’d expand on them later). Since so much time has passed, I don’t think I can flesh out those summaries. So below you’ll find super brief notes (as in . . . one word or one sentence) about what happened during the last few days I was in Thailand.

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Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Today I’m about to board my flight back to the US. It’s my final morning in Thailand (however, I still have many blog entries to post from my time spent in Chiang Mai, the last few days in Bangkok, and possibly some random thoughts). I’m a little letdown to be leaving, but not as much as I would’ve been in the past. I think this trip has really inspired me to keep saving up until my next trip, and also continue to work on my Thai. I really enjoyed this trip and I had so much. Thailand is really fascinating and I can’t wait until I come back!

Some things I’ve learned since being in Thailand:

Thai people come in all shades. They’re not all super light.

Chiang Mai is good for nature exploring and learning about CM/Thailand history. It’s more of a place to backpack in than Bangkok.

Bangkok is very urban. I had these misconceptions that Bangkok was more rural. But it’s truly the opposite.

A lot of signs, menus, just written stuff is in English (and also Mandarin). This is most likely different the more you go out to the countryside, of course.

Thai food is really good and there is stuff that isn’t spicy.

Thailand isn’t as super “walk-friendly” as Korea is but it’s not impossible. I don’t know why people who travel here don’t like to walk.

Tuk-Tuk and Songthaews are kind of overrated.

You don’t need to take a sleeper train . At the end of the day, what matters is if you want to arrive at your destination while it’s still light out or dark.

Grab is great and it’s better to use that than to try to negotiate a price with a taxi or worry about if a taxi will use its meter.

Depending on which season you go to Thailand during, sometimes it’s not the sun you need to worry about, but the rain. And the mosquitos.

In Korea, umbrellas were sold practically everywhere and anywhere. As soon as a raindrop fell, stores were pushing out their umbrellas. We were in Chiang Mai for the rainy days, and I don’t think we saw a store that sold umbrellas once. There were plenty of ponchos though. (We finally got an umbrella at a 7-11 the second to last day here.)

Umbrellas are also more helpful to protect against the sun.

The 7-Elevens here are pretty neat, but I’ve noticed all the ones I’ve been to don’t have a little dining area inside like the ones in Korea.

I’ve noticed American/European travelers here dress more like “backpackers/hikers” while non-Thai Asian travelers tended to dress up more nicely.

A lot of stray dogs.

Lots of security (malls, subway, etc) around.

The amount of times taxi/tuk tuk drivers who will ask where you’re going/if you need a ride can be tiresome sometimes if you don’t need to use them.

Sticky rice and mango really is the best.

There’s so many other foreigners here.

People are generally nice. And despite the language barrier, they’ll do their best to try to help or explain and (for the most part) not make it seem like it’s a burden.

Research online made it seem like the language barrier was going to be a super difficult issue, but it’s really not. It may feel awkward, but it’s not terrible. Knowing some basic phrases or small words will help some if you’re just visiting here for a little bit.

Even when it’s rainy, it’s still hot.

The humidity is awful.

Roaches are huge.

I liked Bangkok more than I thought would and I’m going to miss it until I come back.

Until next time ♡

Friday, July 20, 2018

On this day we went to several different malls! The first one was Terminal 21 where each floor is themed after a country (ex: Carribean). This one was pretty neat, and there was even one store that sold some Japanese fashion items like Liz Lisa! I’ve always wanted a Liz Lisa clothing item. Unfortunately, these clothes were small, and the seller even told me I was too big. I know I’m too large for some Japanese fashion, and I’m a little bigger than the average Thai woman, but it was still a little disheartening to hear her say that. After that moment, I started feeling more self conscious about my weight in Thailand. It’s weird because in Korea or Taiwan I never felt self conscious my weight.

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